MORE OF OUR UNCONSCIOUS IN THE COUNSELOR’S OFFICE
Nota bene, or please note well that my title in this piece includes my own unconscious, which, actually, I wrote about last time.
Ok, as promised, the concrete metaphors I use with clients and students, when endeavoring to get the idea of the unconscious, who resides within us, who calls the shots in terms of our feelings and decisions, and yet who is a stranger to us.
Because I have a large globe of the world in my office—it is handmade—red and silver on a Lucite stand, I use it as a reference of the hugeness of our unconscious. Earlier I referred to a physioball—you know, the kind in your gym or perhaps your office or living room—or a very large beach ball.
Opposed to the hugeness of any of the globes, I hold up the tiny tip of my little finger, which is tiny enough that no one can actually see it, as symbolic of our conscious brain.
No doubt this is difficult to take in, as most of my clients and students are quite new to his and her unconsciousnesses.
So another symbolic example I use is your unconscious as the unruly and willful child driving your car. And you need to remove that child—in the 1980”s of our most recent century the child was called “your inner child”—and strap him or her into the back seat while you take over the driving.
In reality, Dr. Hugh Missildine brought forth his seminal work on the inner child in the early 1960’s of our most recent century in a book called Your Inner Child Of The Past, saying that every couple interacted with each other and, his parents and her parents. The book was a profound “encyclopedia” which helped couples deal with any variety of concerns by “lifting a veil” of how each concern from the woman’s viewpoint and the man’s viewpoint was heavily impacted by his and/or her parents’ viewpoint.
Excellent, seminal book, which, twenty years later, was infantilized by folk who actually believed sitting around in a pity-pot group with a stuffed animal on his or her lap would help them do anything more than blaming their parents for all and everything.
Not. Both Carl Jung and Hugh Missildine knew that exploring the fear and pain of working with our unconscious can only liberate us from all of the negative feelings about ourselves we still hold onto from our pasts.
So, next time I want to talk about how folk talk about therapy as work.