12. It doesn’t matter—or, do not sweat the nickel dime s__t. the latter was a mantra of a friend in college—meaning, for all of us oh so sophisticated 18-year-olds back then about the same as TGIF. A few years ago, however, I read an essay by Roger Rosenblatt called “It Doesn’t Matter” as a mantra for when we need to get our priorities straight and our values level and not fly off into angry and anxiety-laden hysteria. A few deep breth, and a td of talking to ourselves to remind ourselves that not everything really matters at all.
13. Do not make excuses—or whine, for that matter. Nota bene, folks who ae always excuse laden tend to whine a lot as well. The excuse makers are the finger-pointing blamers, who cannot seem to accept responsibility. So sad. So simple to take the blame whether it is yours or not—“yeah, I did it.” “yeah, it happened on my watch, I’m responsible.” Separated the sheep from the goats, I’ll tell you.
14. Follow your own path—Lawrence Le Shan wrote a book, You Can Heal Yourself. His premise was that cancer has two main causes, repressed anger and living out a life path someone else chooses for you. I think it is pretty radical. Sadly, most folk today are so overinfluenced by social media, they have never taken time to figure out who they are and what they want to do with their lives. Not so happy folk, who do follow their own orchestra.